13 Valentine's Day Don't for Single People

For most singles, Valentine's Day serves as a harsh reminder that they are indeed alone. And although we here at theBVX have no power to change that unfortunate reality, we've managed to come up with a few tips on how to avoid feeling like an even bigger loser on February 14th.

1. Don't send yourself flowers

It's one thing to buy flowers for yourself to feel good, but it's another to try fool others in to thinking that you have a "secret admirer." Don't be the weird girl at work who places a V-Day FTD order for herself so that her co-workers will stop by her cubicle to ask about her "mystery man." Have some dignity.

2. Don't get together with your other lonely single friends for an "anti-Valentine's Day" parties.

"I don't have a man, and you don't have a man and Jen doesn't have a man why don't we...?" Stop. Don't even think about it. Commiserating with your single girlfriends is all well and good, but drinking your sorrows away together and ranting about how lame Valentine's day truly is, while sitting in a room full of singles is about as lame as it gets. These ridiculous parties simply reaffirm what this holiday is made for –- making singles feel like s--t.

3. Don't ask your friend in relationship if you can tag along because you don't want to be alone.

Unless you want to see your best friend and her man make googly eyes at each other all night, we advice against it. Let's face it, this has evolved into a holiday celebrating couples, and three is a crowd.

4. Don't drunk dial your ex

Drunk texts or phone calls are always a horrible idea, but nothing convinces someone that you're at a low place in your life as much as a drunk text or phone call on V-day. Leave your ex alone on this day. They're probably out doing something romantic for someone they're actually in to and not thinking about you.

5. Don't go to a restaurant by yourself

Of course, no one should ever feel ashamed that they're single, but this is just sad. Takeout was created for days like this. Imagine how much crappier you'll feel as you sit in a restaurant surrounded by amorous diners. Lonlieness is a dish best served in the privacy of your own home.

6. Don't sign up to an online dating site

We're all aware of the fact that 1 in 5 relationships begin online these days, but who says you have to start today? You most likely won't find a date in time for later that night, which means you'll still be alone for the wretched holiday. And worst of all, you'll be pegged as the desperate girl on match.com.

7. Don't propose to your girlfriend

Guys, nothing says I love you more than choosing the most commercialized day of the year to ask your girl to marry you. Sure, your fiancee won't realize how lame it is that you're popping the big question on V-day (she's just happy that you finally got over your fear of commitment), but everyone else will. Seriously, you can't come up with anything more original?

8. Don't snuggle with your ex's clothes

Girls, we've all slept in our man's clothes before (think: Destiny's Child 'T-Shirt'), but if that man is long gone and you've managed to walk away with a few of his belongings, we wouldn't suggest pulling them out on this day. The memories may be overwhelming, and honestly, it makes you look a tad bit insane.

9. Don't take a girl out on a first date

She's already feeling on top of the world because she's got someone to spend Valentine's Day with, so any kind gestures will suggest that you want to wife her up or at least date her exclusively. You may think you're going to get lucky by the end of the night, but we promise, she'll be planning the honeymoon by dessert.

10. Don't get piss drunk by yourself

As mentioned earlier, getting wasted with your single friends isn't cool, neither is drinking solo-dolo. It's a Hallmark holiday for goodness sake. Save your drunken tirade for when you find out your ex is dating someone new.

11. Don't go on Craigslist looking for a "random hookup"

Although we're adamantly against this 365 days out the year, something about searching for this on Valentine's day really gives us the creeps. We hate to go all Dr. Phil on you ladies but, having sex with someone you don't know won't keep you from feeling lonely (trust us, we've tried). And if you're a guy, preying upon lonely, desperate women makes you a certified a-hole in our books.

12. Don't watch romantic comedy marathon on TV

Everyone's a sucker for a good romantic movie, but subjecting yourself to a marathon of films depicting something you clearly don't have, is not only foolish, but painful. We're not banning romantic films from your repertoire forever, but why not try an uplifting comedy for this lonely evening instead?

13. Don't plan a dinner for one by candlelight

There's nothing wrong with cooking a meal for yourself on Valentine's day, but there is something wrong with trying to recreate a romantic dinner for two. Your Prince Charming is out there somewhere, but unless you believe in "The Secret," pretending that he's there is not going to make him get there any faster.

From Black Voices